故事-向大厨拜师学艺

有天，有位年轻的学徒经过千辛万苦，终于得到了和大厨师傅拜师

学艺的机会！师傅把闻名世界的秘诀，

一字不漏的给学徒，学徒很感激，很用心学习，努力后做出来味

道，有不错的成绩。

虽然跟师傅相比的话，还差一段距离。。。。。

学徒绩继的努力，态度一直很好， 不断的学习，检查，在学习，看看是哪里做错

时时看着师傅给的秘诀，不断的检查，一当有机会和师傅一同下厨时，是他最开心的时候！

记得有一次，学徒早上下了班，和朋友聚会。。。突然接到师傅一通电话，所有贵宾来临，问他是否

有兴趣一同帮忙，顺便介绍这些贵宾给学徒认识，帮助他起步。

学徒二话不说，立刻很兴奋的把手都上的事务放下立刻赶去。心理好开心！好澎湃！

好难得可以和师傅作战，学习。至于认识那些贵宾对他来说，根本就是其次，

对朋友们只好道歉，可见得学徒是抱着“一定要成功的决心”

逐渐得，学徒得努力有了成果，开始有了名气。能够始随心应手了。也掌管了整个厨房，称为总厨。

在招待餐厅的贵宾时，学徒在和贵宾聊天时，也会请贵宾给意见，林总，食物还行吗，有没有继承我师傅的功夫？

林总是位知名美食家，嘴是出了名的的叼！

林总说；果然，不负重望！普通人绝对会以为根本就是师傅做的！

学徒很高兴地说，哈哈谢谢，我已经打理了整家酒楼要一年啦！总要有两下子啊，还要教新人呢！哈哈

林总；抬起头来，嗯。。不错。。。不错。。。不过。。。。

学徒流露出怀疑的眼神，不过什么？？

林总；以我的水准还是差一点！

学徒心理不以为然，不可能， 自己尝了一尝，没分别啊，心想，哈哈心理作用，

食客有时就是这样！但他当然什么也没说。

有天师傅突然来巡视，学徒看见师傅，很开心，并想让师傅知道，他做是行的，

师傅一贯的检查所有的部门等等，品尝，浆料，材料等等，学徒这时看见师傅便和他说师傅，

啊。。。这些，不用你来，让新学徒就行啦，来和你去喝杯茶，

师傅这时没说话。临走前跟学徒说，记得要不断的求进步啊。。 不能让自己松懈下来，懂吗。。。

有空时也可以翻翻我给你的密集，学徒说，师傅我倒背如流了啊！师傅学徒两个开心笑声不断。

有天有个国际大厨比赛，师傅觉得这可是迈向国际的大机会，鼓励学徒参赛

学徒赛前找了师傅，指点，师傅说，你要记得我所教你，这期间，我会帮助你练习。

学徒再次与师傅复习，学徒很努力但做来做去都达不到师傅的要求！每次都有问题！

学徒这时开始怀疑自己，怀疑师傅没传授功夫，甚至觉得师傅根本就是在针对，老糊涂啦，

开始没心练习，都已经使老手了！还以为我是新人啊！真是的，客人点菜也马虎应付。

顾客不知不觉的离开了一大票，这时学徒便说，因为行情不好，有哪家不是这样？

顾客都喜新厌旧的呀。

师傅知道了学徒的问题，他继续在旁观察。时而提醒，但不插手，因为学徒毕竟已是总厨。

学徒越做越差，越来越没斗志，练习也觉得很烦燥，还不是一样的东西。。。 心里想教来教跟当年一样

根本没进步，师傅能教的都已教完！学徒进了比赛，第一轮就被淘汰了！

评语是；这根本不行！学徒收紧耻辱！！！

这时学徒的心已决定，心理强烈有了念头！“这不行了，很多的理由出现在学徒心理

心里想的同时也是师傅过时了，你不会教，功夫留一手，很乱，方法不行。等等的理由

有天学徒准备了所有理由要跟师傅道别：对不起师傅，我不行，我做不到，我没天份。

师傅看着学徒。。。 满满的放下了手里的茶杯。。。

告诉学徒。。。。 没跌过，怎么学会如何爬起来。。。？ 没跌过的人走路怎么懂什么是稳？

学徒没说话。。 想了想， 但。。。 我能做的已经做了， 你叫的我都有照做，还很熟练！不行就是不行，

现在口味变了问题根本我们不能控制，我也不懂问题在哪里，通通已经是我们控制不到的。

师傅这时把一路已来的观察告诉徒弟；你刚来时，第一次的你用心，认真学习，态度很好，

但因为第一次所以还是步骤弄错

第二个月你态度一样好但因为经验不足，你还是忘了些小步骤

第三个月态度很好，步骤细节照顾到，因为缺乏点经验，火候没到位，这是需要时间

过了一年，你有秘诀，你有了经验，是时候可以青出于蓝。。。

我让你去参加比赛，去到一个水准高的领域，当然你要和其他都很优秀的比赛，不在是你自己地方，

不在是你最好的了。比赛就有输赢。 胜败乃兵家常事。这次不行下次再来。

但你不努力的找出真正的原因，却因为受了点打击，自暴自弃！这时师傅语气带点激动。。。

埋怨这个埋怨那个，真正的问题在那里？

师傅继续说，是你的态度！你态度掉了 因为这样你连第一个月学徒煮的水准都不如。。。。。！

师傅眼里闪着泪光－是失望了。。。 是心痛了。。。。 是回想当初学徒的感恩，诚恳，有干劲的学徒，

怎么被一击就倒。就放弃，明明有潜质，有天份的。。。

学徒带点生气但更不可思议的说着。。怎。。。怎。。么可能，自己尝了一口！没问题啊！

学徒已习惯自己的标准。。。

师傅拿了新学徒的另一盘给他吃，学徒吃后范着眼泪，深信自己每天分，愣住了。。。。

师傅这时问一起并肩作战的学徒，问题在哪里？

学徒说了一推理由，每天份，肯能材料，秘诀改了，师傅偏心。。。。

学徒自暴自弃。。。自责。。难过等等。。。

师傅生气的拍了桌子！问题在哪里？？？

学徒不知道师傅要什么。。。。。

师傅把学徒拉进一间他们酒楼连锁最小，给员工的小厨房！

披上了厨师服！戴上了大厨专用的帽子，开始烹煮当年教学徒的招牌菜！

才一开始，师傅沙哑得声音喊着；用心！看！不要用你的眼而已！看看和你做得时候又什么不一样啊！！！！

学徒收起被泪水淹没的双眼，认真的观察。。。 惊觉。。师傅。。 怎么有那么多小细节不一样了！？？

你自己尝尝！

学徒吃了一口。。。 眼泪马上掉了下来。。。

这。。 这。。。是当初的味道。。。。。 怎么跟自己刚才的差那么多。。。

学徒的心理勾起很多回忆。。。 和画面。。。 想起师傅当初对一个什么都不会的自己都肯给予机会。。。。

一起打战做菜给贵宾吃，后两师徒，一起吃宵夜和烧酒一直聊天讨论新菜色到天亮。。。。

回想起师傅做事严肃但是真正用颗真心的把他当家人的一份子，真正教他，帮他，给他机会，

从不自私。

想起自己受到第一次肯定时，师傅开心的露出的那灿烂的笑容

好像比自己得奖更开心的情景。。。。。 点点滴滴都深深的刻在学徒心理，瞬间好像一连串的通通播放出来！

就在这一刻师傅拿出当年给他的秘诀食谱。。。。

翻阅给学徒看。。。。 你看看。。。

学徒好熟悉的秘笈，但为何里头的字好像从来没看过的呢。。。。

学徒终于明白了。。。。

原来秘笈里虽然是一样。。。 当随着经验的累积，才能领悟其中的奥秘！

在刚开始前，尽全力希望一字不漏的学习，但没有实际的操练，经验来作基础，是不可能抓到精髓！

师傅点点头。。嗯。。

学徒领悟到，要传承师傅的精髓，就一定要不断的操练，因为已经有了秘诀，过程变的愉快轻松，

成果只要我不断的操练，检查，在学， 就一定会达到！就这样。

从那天后，学徒从心，也从新的像个新人，亲力亲为！每个步骤都细腻检查，一步都不能偷工减料

所有步骤，对新人，没经验的新手，看似多此一举，但学徒有经验了，明白了其中奥秘！

学徒犹如重获新心！找回了他的热诚与动力！每天很努力的把本分做到最好！

时间都过得很充实！ 虚心的宁听顾客，职员，的意见，也不时请教师傅，检查自己。

时间过了很快，有天学徒受到了一封邀请函；他被邀请了在世界大厨展览代表华人料理出席。

这可是至高的荣誉啊！学徒很惊讶。。。 也不知道为什么会受到这封邀请函。 他把拿给师傅过目，

师傅看到，邀请机构，便拍拍学徒的肩膀！恭喜你！这机构代表着”世界最顶尖的水平

“他们不只是看你的菜色好吃吗，还会观察你的厨德（身为大厨的为人，品德于口碑）

他们习惯暗中派人员来调查，确保平时你们都是达到水准，和对待客人的态度是一视同仁，等等。

这可是最高的荣誉啊！！！！

学徒兴奋但也意外， 内心属于平静与喜悦掺杂。 师傅这时看到了学徒已成长。已是一位领导该有的气魄与品行修为了！

师傅眼里范着泪光频频点头。。。很好。。。。 很好。。。

学徒心理很感激能遇到师傅这位改变他一生的贵人！

在国际大会真的光芒毕露！努力没有白费。。。而也得到最高荣誉的奖座。

学徒在分享时说；今天我也是像平常一样，把每个步骤，小细节都做到最好，我没有压力的用我的热诚烹煮我的菜色。

很荣幸可以得到大家的肯定，各位，我记得，我曾经，在比赛的第一关就被人踢出局。。。 因为我紧张和没用心，

我省至觉得自己没天份，不适合做这行。。

所以我很感激一个人。。。 他从来都没放弃过我，对我的相信，可能还比我自己还更相信我自己。 我从没遇过一位如此真心，

真性情，这么无私的人，他就是我的恩师。。。。 他教会我，每日的小细节，和不断的操练，学习才是最重要的！

今天我可以淡定的在这里为大家烹饪若没有每天，不断的操练，今天的水平一定会因为紧张而有差。。 所以真的谢谢他，

没有他，我很可能不会是厨师。。。 谢谢！

各位历少家族的将才，从这故事你能体会当中的意义与教诲吗。。？

简单的步骤，你们选择了做你喜欢的而已，还是做70％，80％，得到了成绩，后面的小细节就免了呢。。。？

好好检查以下。。。 顾客只给你一次的机会，保持这样的理念，你的生意会源源不绝的。加油！永久就是把人做好，

自然成功就跟着来，我们一起来！

历少笔

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Have you let go yet?

HAVE YOU LET GO YET?

a true story from a distributor with a very strong business mindset.

there was this gathering during one chinese new year, many friends and family members gather for the festive season,

many people just came and was attracted to this business man, they love to talk to him and feels that he is successful,

and friends who haven met for a long time always ask hi, so you must be doing very well, what are you doing?

the business man will always start with a simple humble reply, oh` I'm wholesaling aloe vera.

The reason that people sees him as a successful businessman is because during the journey to his goals,

he has been telling everyone about his business and products services, he been sharing that he is wholesaling and never

fails to shares the possible opportunities to partner together with them, with many ideas and as out of the box as possible.

He services his friends, relatives, family members, anyone who buys his products personally,

because this is what his business is about.

MAKING FUN OF THE SALES MAN

There are many times when people sees him as a lowly profession and feels that this job is hard to make ends meet,

or ask him why do yo do this ?

there was once an housewife was selling clothes in a bazaar and she comment,

oh my god why are you working as a sales in this products,

you should work as a air steward or something....

Countless times, close friends and relatives said in a joking manner, oh he is a SALESMAN, or he in SALES.

Highly professionals gather and makes funs about the SALES MAN, oh here comes the SALES MAN! BE CAREFUL!

HE WILLS SELL YOU PRODUCTS, HIS ALOE VERACAN MAKE YOU PRETTY !!! MAKE YOU STRONG!!! HAHAHA

BUT ALWAYS A HUMBLE REPLY

he will be humble and say yes! do support me :) and straights away shares the products passionately,

or straight away arranges and next appointment

when there is a good chance because he knows very clearly that all successful millionaire comes from a or rather some

sort of sales profession,to be successful you have to know sales! and he is proud to be in sales

a humble sales man in his heart, all this isn't important anymore when you have become a humble sales man

who mission is to service your customers giving them the best experience ever to help them improve their beauty, health and wealth.

this is the process, he will shares as he services them along the way, shares his story, his goals, his pictures with his miracle book

building very strong bond and friendship, customers slowly sees a different light in him, sees a different story from his profession and sees the sincerity,

slowly they become friends, and strong supporters, they start to feel privileged to be part of his success story. They became raving fans!

and now you see how all this links back to the starting of the story, why people are attracted to him and sees him as a highly successful business person.

this person is none other than our very own, partner, mentor, buddy, aai family li shao.

my family, results is just one tip of the iceberg, how many times have you seen highly income sales profession but you just sees him as a SALES

they or results does not win hearts, its in your attitude! its you who can decide do you want to build your group of RAVING FANS

HAVE YOU LET GO ?

so have you let go already ? my friends , letting go of your ego which is telling you why this person cant, and that person cannot.

I have no more contacts already. yes you have spoken to everyone whom you think which might partner with you in the business.

and the good news is those whom we think are just a small percentage to the market that we have!

we are in a everyday solution business, we are not in a medical industry looking for specific people with problems.

the whole world is your oyster! everyone whom you know needs your service and products, give them an experience no other can give

give them an experience no retail can give, share your knowledge with them and you see there are so many you can do

can you just share with 1 person a day? 3? what about 5? everyone on your call list needs what your products and services.

what do you think you will achieve just by adopting this simple mindset and strategy ? how do you see this going to change things around

what do you feel it will bring you towards your goal?

live your dreams, take massive action

love aai family li shao !

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Yes we did it

story from a husband

Story from a husband - please read it slowly]

To my married and unmarried friends:


When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms


On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy.. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.


Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls' eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.

Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife.. But I couldn't help doing so.

I moved Dew's hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I've got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.

Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry.. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.

She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.

I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn't tell Dew about this.

I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain.. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.

I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn't notice that our life lacked intimacy.

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious.

She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever.. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of life, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.

Who ARE YOU ????

Hi my friends and family,
This article is an extract from my friend/partner/coach, Adam khoo`s
upcoming book 'Winning the Game of Life!' Do look out for it soon!
Winning in the game of LIFE
I have definately reserved it! as he will definately email EVERYONE haha !
so maybe i should, no i guess i just made a
decision to do it for my company & aai family. yes!
feed your brain like how u feed yourself everyday!

here it goes......
After working with over 550,000 people in seven countries through
my seminars and coaching sessions, I have found that when a person
makes a change and it lasts, it is because they did not just make a
change at the behavioural, emotional or cognitive level, but they
make a shift at the level of self-identity.

What is the meaning of identity?
Identity is the belief you have
about who you are as a person. It is how you see yourself. I
remember watching an animated movie called 'Ice Age 2' that really
illustrates the power of identity. In the movie, there is a mammoth
(prehistoric elephant) named Ally who lost her herd when she was
just a baby. As a result, she was adopted by a family of possums
who brought her up as one of their own. Growing up in a family of
possums, she began to believe that she was a possum herself.

The result? She behaved like a possum. She played dead whenever
predators like birds flew overhead. She hung upside down to sleep
and ran away when other animals came. She never realized that she
was a mammoth, the largest and strongest animal around. One day,
she met a male mammoth by the name of Manny. Manny tried his best
to convince her that she was really a mammoth and she shouldn't be
running away and hiding from everything she saw.

He brought her to a pond and asked her to look at her own
reflection to see who she really was. When she looked into the
water, she exclaimed, 'I am a big fat possum!' She was still not
convinced she was a mammoth even though the evidence was right in
front of her. What is the lesson in this story?

Many of us are like that mammoth.
We have tremendous potential and
are capable of amazing things in life. However, as we go through
life, we are sometimes convinced by the people around us that we
are 'lazy', 'unlucky', 'incapable', 'weak' etc... The moment we start
to see ourselves as an average person', we start behaving like one.
We start lowering our standards and adopting limiting beliefs and
attitudes. Even when we are shown our true potential, we hold onto
our limiting beliefs and refuse to see the truth.

The Way You See Yourself Affects Your Destiny
The way you see yourself (your identity) affects what you think you
can or cannot do. This in turn affects want you want in life (your
goals and standards). What you want will affect what you do (your
actions). Finally, your actions will determine your results and
ultimately your destiny.

Understanding the power of identity has really impacted my life
personally. When I was in primary school, I used to have a very
negative self-identity. I used to see myself as loser. I saw myself
as a slow, lazy and lousy student. Reflecting back, I have come to
realize that my identity was shaped by my past experiences and the
negative comments that people kept saying to me.

I used to spend all my time procrastinating, watching TV and
playing computer games, instead of doing my homework and studying.
I found it difficult to understand and remember what was taught in
class, so I didn't bother to pay attention. As a result, I kept
failing my exams and was always among the last in class. My friends
would call me stupid and my parents, tutors and teachers kept
saying that I was lazy. All these experiences soon shaped the way I
saw myself-as a loser.

As long as I saw myself as an underachiever, I never thought that I
could ever amount to anything. As a result, I low standards and no
future goals. All I wanted to do was pass my exams. Not failing was
a great achievement for me. This in turn gave me no inspiration to
take action. I would always put in the minimum effort. The result,
I kept getting lousy grades. God knows where I would be today if I
still held onto that identity.

So what made that 180-degree change in my life?
I went through a
powerful experience that totally changed my identity. At the age of
13, I attended a personal development program for youths. During
the programme, we were put through a series of challenging
activities to prove to ourselves that we were capable of achieving
more than what we thought. I was taught that my past behavior and
results did not determine who I was. I alone had the power to
choose the person I wanted to be. We were all taught to realize
that we had tremendous potential and could achieve anything we put
our mind to.

After five days of intensive positive conditioning, I began to see
myself as a 'winner'. I learnt to visualize myself as an 'A'
student, a winner, a leader and a future millionaire. That simple
shift in my mind, made a tremendous shift in my thoughts,
behaviours and my life. With this new identity, I began to think
that everything was possible in life. I began to set much higher
standards for my life. I wanted so much more. I set goals of
topping my school, going to university and becoming a successful
entrepreneur. I began to behave differently. I started to study
hard, ask questions and step up whenever there was an opportunity.

No doubt, my grades began to improve and the rest is history.
Through my own life experience, I have come to realize that it is
only when we change the way we see ourselves, will our entire life
change. Today I get a huge level of satisfaction helping both
adults as well as youths create shifts in their identity through my
life transformational programmes.

Who Are You?

I want you to take a few minutes and to reflect on this question,
'Who are you?' 'How do you currently see yourself?' Do you see
yourself as a winner or an average person? A motivated person or a
lazy person? An adventurer? A coward? A leader or a follower? Are
you a failure or a success? Are you an intelligent person? Are you
attractive or unattractive? Be totally honest with yourself and do
this exercise now.
Take a look at the identity you have described. Are there certain
aspects to your identity that empower you? Of example, if you see
yourself as a very determined person, it is unlikely that you will
allow yourself to give up easily. At the same time, are there
certain aspects of your identity that limit you? For example, if
you see yourself as a lazy person, then you will subconsciously
behave in a way that is consistent with that identity.

You Are More Than Who You Think You Are

If you have negative or limiting aspects of your identity, the good
news is that it is not cast in stone. You can change it! You must
remember that the identity that you now have is the result of
generalizations you have made of your past experiences and
behaviours. It does not define you unless you allow it to.

For example, if you see yourself as a lazy person, how did you
create this self-identity? It could be that there were times in the
past when you set certain goals and did not follow through. You did
not take action at times when you needed to. After witnessing this
behaviour in yourself a few times, you came to the conclusion that
you are a lazy person. The people around you may have also labeled
you as being 'lazy' after observing your behaviour. Once you gave
yourself that lazy label, it became comfortable and acceptable to
keep doing it.

Understand that you are not your past behaviours. Your past
behaviours are the result of past choices you have made and
emotional states you were in. You have the power at any time to
make new choices, put yourself into an empowering state and take
action. However, the moment you believe that you are a lazy person,
you will not change your choices and your behaviours.

If We Want to Make a Sustainable Change, it Starts
With Changing Your Identity

Remember that if you want to change any kind of behaviour or
result, you have to first change the way you see yourself. If you
want to achieve a greater level of success in your life, you have
to first see yourself as a successful person. You will then think
and act like a successful person. You will carry yourself
differently, speak differently and dress differently. You will
spend your time more effectively and demand a lot more from
yourself.

Steps to Change Your Identity:

So, who must you BE to achieve the dreams and the life that that
you want? For example, if you want to increase your fitness and
health, adopt the identity a healthy and fit person.

If you want to be successful, you have to first adopt the identity
of a successful person! You must be someone who is motivated,
resilient, decisive and passionate. You must see yourself as a
leader and a role model.
Step 1: Write Down Your New Identity
The process begins with you consciously writing down the identity
you want for yourself. So take as much time as you need and write
down all the parts of your new identity. Do it now!

When I did this exercise many years ago, I wrote down: I am a
future millionaire, I am a winner, I am an 'A' student, I am
fearless, I am an entrepreneur, I am a never say die person etc...
Step 2: Visualize Yourself As That New Person

Everything is first created in the mind before it is manifested in
physical reality. For example, if you want to be financially
successful, see yourself as a millionaire in your mind. Imagine
yourself living the lifestyle you want; living in the home you
want, driving the car you want and making million dollar
investment decisions. Your mind gives you the power to create
anything you want. By visualizing something over and over again
with intensity, it programs our subconscious mind to move in that
direction, causing us to think and behave in that way.
Step 3: Consciously Act According to Your New Identity

The next thing to do is to follow through with your actions.
Consciously decide to act according to your new identity until it
reinforces into a habit. For example, if you now want to become a
sociable person, start taking the initiative to say hello to people
and strike up conversations. Make the effort to remember their
names, keep their name cards and to follow up with a call or an
email. If it is something you may have never done before (because
you were an introvert or shy person) then it may seem uncomfortable
at the beginning.

This is where you have to break through your comfort zone and keep
doing it over again until it becomes your new comfort zone. The
moment it becomes comfortable, your new identity will stay.
Step 4: Make Physical Changes

Finally, you can also make physical changes to reinforce your
identity. You could change your hairstyle, your makeup, your
clothes and your accessories that are in line with the new you.

The moment I became a speaker, I started to dress differently. I
wore suits most of the time and carried a business travel case. I
wore my hair in a more mature and professional way. Somehow, our
physical appearance affects how we see ourselves and how others see
us. You can't be an achiever and dress in a sloppy manner. It just
doesn't work! So start to look and dress the part and you will
become that person you want.

Love li shao (andrew)
aai family
no.1 in Asia, the Best in the World
We are the Miracles Makers

whats your legacy ?

When faced with adversity, do you lie down or do you fight?
Do you make the most of each day?
What will your legacy be?

When adversity strikes, it's not what happens that determines our destiny; it's how we react.

You have to believe you can do something and then have the courage and determination to see it through. That's what Finish Strong by Dan Green is all about. The book is filled with amazing stores about people from all walks of life who, in the face of adversity, against all odds...finished strong!
Finish Strong is more than a statement...it's an attitude. Today, I'd like to share one of the stories from the book about Miles Levin, a teenager, who despite his terminal cancer choose to persevere and inspire thousands by making each day count.

An excerpt from
Finish Strong
by Dan GreenAfter a two year battle with cancer, teenager Miles Levin, unfortunately lost his fight. However, during his final years, he achieved a level of self awareness, courage and wisdom that most of us will never reach. Miles chose to post his observations on a carepages.com blog and through his writings he inspired thousands of people. He wrote with amazing grace and eloquence. Some of his posts were short:

"Dying is not what scares me. It's dying having no impact."
Some were long and philosophical. But each post served a significant purpose in that it challenged a reader to think more deeply about life, death and making a difference. Through his expressions, Miles left this world a better place than he came into it. Here's what Miles said just one month after being diagnosed with terminal cancer.

"I went to the driving range the other day and I was thinking...I was thinking how you start out with a big bucket full of golf balls, and you just start hitting away carelessly. You have dozens of them, each individual ball means nothing to you so just hit, hit, hit. One ball gone is practically inconsequential when subtracted from your bottomless bucket.

There are no practice swings or technique re-evaluations after a bad shot, because so many more tries remain. Yet eventually you start to have to reach down towards the bottom of the bucket to scavenge for another shot and you realize that tries are running out.

Now with just a handful left, each swing becomes more meaningful. The right technique becomes more crucial, so between each shot you take a couple practice swings and a few deep breaths. There is a very strong need to end on a good note, even if every preceding shot was terrible, getting it right at the end means a lot. You know as you tee up your last ball, "This is my final shot, I want to crush this with perfection; I must make this count.
" Limited quantities or limited time brings a new precious value and significance to anything you do. Live every day shooting as if it's your last shot, I know I have to.
-Miles Alpern Levin, July 7, 2005.Like Miles suggested, we should treat each day as a precious ball of life. Take your time, take a breath and make a practice swing. Make each shot count and most of all finish strong!
The difference between our success or failure is not chance - it's choice. Which will you have chosen?

love li shao
aai family
the miracles makers

一个叫“心的别墅”

一个叫“心的别墅”
他的主人是一名很好客的人。
.. 但不知怎么了，主人有天，把所有的东西都停下，把＂心＂别墅的大门锁了起来！

因该是想好让它无干扰，无接触的慢慢康复吧.. 外面还有保护着它的恶犬。
只要有人经过或提起，恶犬就会凶！以免被触碰到
没人知道里面怎么了...

过后恶犬好像走了，过了很久大家也忘了有这件事..

因为主人交游广阔，开始又有很多人从远方而来，他们找主人想借宿。
好客的主人一口答应！

但奇怪的是！每当带大家到们口时，或前往时，
总是不自觉的推三阻四，或诸多刁难，都不自觉的把人给赶走了，
让大家都感到知难而退。

有天主人有位好朋友来了
他们畅谈的很投机，
主人说，你有落脚的地方吗？
朋友：暂时没有..
主人；别客气！我有间别墅叫＂心＂你可以去住啊！便吩咐下人带友人前往.

到了！友人正要把门打开时，发现原来心门锁上了！
友人；下人您主人有给你钥匙吗？

主人说这锁不用钥匙..

友人；那用什么？

主人说是用＂你的心 + 他的勇气＂

友人；那里面现在是怎样了？

下人；不知道，但主人有说，前面的路是自己走出来了。

友人；那勇气有了吗？

下人；主人每次说，不管跌倒受伤多少次，都没关系只要在爬起来就好了，一定要坚持信念。所以我相信他有。 主人是有诚意的邀请你。


各位有曾
因为怕受伤所以都不想解开心门吗..
所以喜欢把出现的机会，事业，感情，收入，等等，都不知觉的哄走吗？

有可能会再次受伤... 但若没「刻苦」哪来的「铭心」

*一切的美好往往都会被很多的障碍，困难保护着，以避免，消极，懒惰，放弃的人偷走它！

历少笔