Loving the most important person in your life!

Hi my friends, I got this interesting and meaningful mail from Adam, (Adam khoo)

I'm sure that there are lots of things that you really love. You may love your parents, your husband/wife, your girlfriend/boyfriend and your children. You may love your car, your home or even your new mobile phone.
But let me ask you a question that may seem really weird, 'do you love yourself?' Do you love that person you see in the mirror everyday? If you find that you have many things in life to be grateful for but are still not happy with, the reason may be because you have not learnt to love yourself. In order to be HAPPY and SUCCESSFUL, you have to start by lovingyourself. The reason why many people feel lousy about themselves and fail to achieve is because they don't like who they are. Many people think that they must first become successful before they start loving themselves and their life. In fact, the opposite is true. You must first love yourself before you can become successful. People who love and feel good abut themselves have what is called HIGH SELF-ESTEEM

The Most Important Person In Your Life Is
Let me give you the most important reason why you should love yourself. Imagine that there was someone whom you have to spend the rest of your life with. You had to spend every minute of every day with this person, day in and day out. This person is the first you see when you wake up in the morning and the last person you see when you go to sleep. This person is there on all your life's special occasions: your birthday, Christmas, New Year, your wedding and finally, your funeral. This person is there during all of your life's ups and downs. This person shares your sorrows and your joys. When you are down, only this person can cheer you up. When you fall, only this person can pick you up. When you set a goal, only this person can give you the motivation and confidence to achieve it. This person will never leave you and is the only one you can truly depend on. If you didn't like this person, wouldn't your life be absolutely miserable? You'd be forever stuck to a person you didn't like. You wouldn't be able to do anything! I am sure you can guess that this person is YOU!
YOU are the most important person in your own life.

--------------------The Power of Loving Yourself-------------------
When you really love someone, you always want the very best for him or her, right? You would do anything for them. You would make sacrifices for them and defend them if anyone speaks badly of them. The same thing goes when you love yourself. When you love yourself, you will want the very best for yourself. You would not accept anything less than the best for yourself. You will want the best relationships, the best career, the best partner and the best home. You will not accept being in an abusive relationship. You will not accept being stuck in a job you hate. You will not accept a mediocre life that is going nowhere. In other words, those who love themselves dream big and set high standards for themselves. At the same time, you would be willing to work hard and make sacrifices for yourself. You will be willing to sacrifice the effort to go to the gym, to read a self-improvement book and to avoid unhealthy foods that are bad for you.

When You Like Yourself, People Will Start to Like You
When I talk about loving yourself, I am not talking about being an arrogant, egotistical braggart who looks at your self every ten minutes and boastfully says, 'I am the greatest'. Nobody likes people like that! In fact, people who really love themselves never boast or show off! They don't need to. They already feel good about themselves inside. When you like yourself, you will feel good about yourself. You will have the confidence to take on challenges, make friends and beoutgoing. You will smile alot and talk positively about yourself and others. People who feel good about themselves see the good in others and give them sincere encouragement and praise. This confidence and positive attitude will make you really charming and attractive to others. People will start to admire and respect you. People love being around positive people because it makes themfeel good as well.

-----------------------------------------------What Happens When You Don't Love Yourself
On the other hand, people who hate themselves tend to remain unhappy and unsuccessful. When you don't like yourself, you tend to put yourself down, think negatively of yourself and set low personal standards. Over the years i met and coach alot of people, from teens to working professionals, I remember asking one of my friends Steve, whom i was helping him setting up his business, halfway in the business, he did not see the results he wanted and was leaving everything to a stop. I finally got to him and ask him what he was aiming to go for in life?

He said, ' I don't know, see lor. ' 'at that time i said, you got to have a plan, if not you will fall into other people`s plan, With a goal, to achieve some level of financial security, to learn skills to value add to yourself, you can truly get out of your job(which he truly did not like) and live a more comfortable life. You can get success, respect and more money, most importantly time" I said. He replied, 'who cares?'

At the time, I couldn't understand why steve would not care about his own future. Later I realized it was because Steve did not like himself very much. In his mind, he did not think he deserved a great life. Its like a game of tennis, when he was playing with people who were the same level as he is, he feel good, after some time, he got a chance to play with people who were way better then him, Initially, he learned and work very hard, the process was fun, and then its comes a stage where he starts to feel that he can never catch up with them, thier level are just too way up there, the gap is too far... and many reasons and excuses came on why he should not play with them, " i will drag them down, i`m not cut for it, etc

When actually the real reason is, he was experiencing stress...
and stress is naturally there for you to improve.
Will you become better if you continue playing with people who were a higher level if you want to improve your game?
Your life is just like a game, some played it good, MOST play it miserably, but why? what do the most do when they are give a opportunity to become like the 20% (who were more successful in life) ?
So what does most people do? they go back and play with people who were a level below themselves, and they feel great ! its good to feel great, but you are not getting your desired outcome! to become better in the game, to become better in your game of life, to Live your dreams!
Steve, deep down in his heart, he believed that only other people who were better deserved such a successful life.
So, begin the journey of success and happiness by first loving yourself!


Thanks for reading! If you know someone who could benefit from this, feel free to forward it to them!

Love andrew tan

a story to share

A Story to Share
一个故事与你分享

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend,

'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'

有一位瞎女很討厭自己因為眼睛瞎了。她也討厭每個人，唯一不討厭的是她的男朋友，因為他都常守在她身旁。於是她對她的男朋友說：「如果能讓我看到這個世界，我愿意嫁給你！」

One day,someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

有一天，有人捐了一對眼精給她。當紗布解開時，她能夠看到一切，包括她的男朋友。

He asked her, 'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her lifeled her to refuse to marry him.

男朋友問她：「現在你可以看到這世界，你愿意嫁給我嗎？」那女孩看了男朋友是個瞎子，他那對蓋上眼皮的眼睛嚇到了她，這是她無法想像。她想：要我嫁給他而一生對着他這個樣子，我無法接受。

Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying:
'Take good care of your eyes, my dear,
for before they were yours,
they were mine.

' 於是，她的男朋友很傷心的離開她，幾天後寫了字條給她：「親愛的，請你好好照顧你的眼睛，因為它不是屬於你的之前，它是屬於我的。」

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.
Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

這也是人的腦會如何做當情況有所變動。只有少許人會記得他或她之前的生活及誰會在身旁當他或她處在困境的時候

Life Is a Gift !
生命是一份禮物

Today before you say an unkind word
- Think of someone who can't speak.

今天，當你要講一句不善之言－－請想想那些無法講話的人

Before you complain about the taste of your food
- Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

當你要埋怨食物的味道時－－請想想那些沒有食物吃的人

Before you complain about your husband or wife
- Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

當你要埋怨你的先生或太太時－－請想想那些在向上天哭訴要一個伴侶的人

Today before you complain about life
- Think of someone who died too early on this earth.

今天，當你要埋怨生活時－－請想想那些太早離開人世間的人

Before you complain about your children
- Think of someone who desires children but they're barren...

當你要埋怨小孩時－－請想想那些渴望小孩而無能生育的人

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean orsweep
- Think of the people who are living in the streets.

當你要爭論沒有人清理屋子時－－請想想那些住在街邊的人

Before whining about the distance you drive
-Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

當你在哀訴駕駛的路程－－請想想那些同樣的路程以代步的人

And whenyou are tired and complain about your job
- Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

當你很疲備而埋怨工作時－－請想想那些無工作，殘疾的，及那些多麼希望擁有你這份工作的人

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another
- Remember that all of us make mistakes in life, and thats how we learn and become better, dont you agree?

當你想要指著人或互相譴責時－－請記得每一个人都曾犯过错，
从过程学习而改变得更好，大家不都是这样从中学习过来的吗？

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down
- Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around.

當壓抑的念頭讓你無法振作時－－請你笑一笑想想：你還活著存在世間！